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08.03.2017
Teresa Slack
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Have you ever noticed how people get really angry when they make a mistake? They get mad and defensive that they’ve messed up and often take it out on the first poor slob they see. This happened to me recently. Someone had spent too much money on car maintenance. The situation did not involve me at all. I didn’t recommend the mechanic. It wasn’t my car. I wasn’t responsible for paying the bill. The whole matter was none of my business. Yet while discussing what happened, the person ended up getting mad all over again and yelling at me simply because I had the misfortune of being in his line of fire. I wasn’t offended. I knew the person was mad at himself—and maybe the mechanic—and not at me. But it made me wonder why we behave this way when we mess up. The situation is especially worse if the matter involves losing money or losing face. I’m a writer so I naturally wonder about these things. I like to understand why people behave the way they do. If you’re going to tell me a story, I want more than just the Who, What, Where, & How. To me, the most important consideration is Why. Back to my earlier question—why do people get angry—furious even—at others when they mess up? I guess the most obvious explanation is it’s easier to get angry at the person who saw you fall flat on your face than it is to blame yourself for not watching where you were going. Episodes of domestic violence are often incited when the violator has a bad day at work or similar experience. Maybe he messed up and got yelled at by the boss. He sure can’t yell back at the boss or he’ll get fired. He can’t yell at the guy in the bar or he might get his butt kicked. Instead, he laughs it off like it’s no big deal, and then goes home and takes out his frustration on the weakest target in his path. I’m sure you’ve seen someone stub a toe on a chair and kick the chair. Maybe you were the one doing the kicking. I’m sorry to say I’ve kicked plenty of chairs in my day. The simplest explanation could be that mistakes make us feel bad. We feel stupid when we make a financial decision that ends up costing us money. We feel clumsy or awkward when we trip over our own feet. We feel inferior when we take a chance and put ourselves out there for someone we find attractive, only to have that person reject us. The only thing worse than making a mistake is for someone else to witness it. Whether it’s anger or embarrassment at getting caught, no one wants to look like an idiot. Rather than laughing it off and realizing everyone messes up sometimes, we get mad at the one who noticed. I heard a line somewhere that basically said: Never the windshield, always the bug. That’s life. We’re going to mess up and there will probably be someone around to see it. Instead of getting mad at the witness to our humiliation—or getting mad at ourselves for being human—we need to get up, shake ourselves off, and move on. Learn what we can from the experience and try to do better next time. How we react to what happens to us is within our control. It’s a choice we make every day. Now, I need to choose to get to work on my novel or in the next post I’ll be complaining about how I never complete any of the tasks on my to-do list. In the meantime, leave a comment about the last time someone got mad at you over a mistake they made. Or better yet, the last time you were the one kicking the chair after stubbing your toe.
03.02.2017
Teresa Slack
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I found this post, reputedly written by Erma Bombeck while she was dying of cancer, and decided to repost. If you're reading this, you still have time to do the truly important things in life and not let all that other garbage get you down. I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.' But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute. Look at it and really see it...... live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!! Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us!
27.01.2017
Teresa Slack
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It’s a whole new year so we can forgive ourselves for the financial mistakes we made last year & try to do better in 2017. Right? Every year after I do my taxes, I think about meeting with my tax professional to go over my return line by line to see what I can do better in the upcoming tax season. I do the basic Schedule C for my writing business & I know I’m missing some benefits. Now that my husband and I are staring down the gun of retirement it’s even more important to know the steps I can take now to avoid paying more in the future. Like most people, my main focus is not owing anything at the end of the year. As long as I make it over that hurdle, I don’t pay much attention to what else I’m doing. Big mistake! So every year I tell myself I’ll set up a meeting with Mike at C&J Tax Service in Nelsonville and educate myself. Guess what? I never do. As soon as that refund is deposited into my account I don’t give my taxes another thought. Most of our financial mistakes don’t involve big things like taxes. They’re little things we often wish we could undo, but they’re water under the bridge now. Hopefully we learn something from those little regrets and vow never to do them again. Like buying a weekender bag from QVC without reading the reviews because it was super cute and I had to hurry before they ran out of my color choice. (I chose pink and it is adorable.) As soon as I tried to roll the thing across the carpet, I realized the handle was spindly and now I’m nervous it’ll break at the most inopportune time, like in a crowded hotel lobby or while hurrying through the airport. Had I read the reviews before ordering I would’ve seen nearly everyone had concerns with the handle. I thought about it for too long and had already destroyed the box it came in so I couldn’t return it. A $79 plus tax and S&H mistake. I guess the only way to avoid financial mistakes or regrets is to go into a situation better prepared. Read reviews. Research what you want online. Sit on a financial decision for at least a week before making it. Don’t buy Windows Vista the day it comes out like I did way back when before everyone realized it was garbage. What about you? What money mistakes or regrets do you have from 2016? Or even yesterday? Do you spend too much money eating out? Did you buy or lease a new car and wish you’d gone down to Heritage Motor Sales instead for a great deal on something you could’ve paid cash for? Did you buy a dog at one of those incredibly inflated national chain pet stores instead of buying from a local breeder, or better yet, adopting from your local shelter? Did you do like me and spend too much on Lularoe? (My new weakness.) Do you get your nails done every 3 weeks when you could easily make them last 5? Don’t be embarrassed. Share your monetary regrets and resolutions. Let’s learn from each other. We’re all in this together. As always, friend me on FaceBook Or follow me on Twitter Sign up for my newsletter to stay up to date with new releases, promos, & giveaways. https://www.facebook.com/authorteresaslack/photos/a.122326241279728.20411.121975854648100/720627878116225/?type=3&theater
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